Best wishes for 2016. I am certain you had an amazing time over the new year holiday.
I am also certain you are all set to maximize 2016.
What better way than setting your sights on changing things up for yourself and to be in a position where life is not happening to you, but it is happening for you.
You are investing time on setting out to design your life and the new year is a great place to begin.
There is some great advice out there, and let’s face it a lot of us who start off with a big plan and good intentions make it to the 2nd week of January and it all falls in a heap.
They have even done research on this very topic with university studies showing results only 8% of those who set these goals and resolutions make it through the first month and that means the majority - 92% give up.
Why does this happen?
We have good intentions, we want to make these decisions stick, we set up these goals because we want better but for a lot of us, it all unravels and we have many excuses to tell to justify why it happens.
When it comes to how to design your life you are making big decisions that involve risk, commitment and being prepared to move out of your comfort zone.
There is no silver bullet, no click your heels, close your eyes and make 3 wishes it will all come together, neither is there one size or one process that fits all.
I have put together just 3 exercises to build your goal getting muscles.
No 1. Expect there will be emotions, like fear and anxiety.
When you know what to expect, you can challenge the thoughts and prepare. So prepare for anxiety, it will come -it is only natural. What will stop it in its tracks, is action.
You have set out some amazing audacious goals for the coming year. Your goals are really going to move you out of your comfort zone. The zone is called comfort for a reason, it is comforting to know how you will act and react, there is that predictability with a certain amount of stretch but nothing that will cause you to be anxious. So when anxiety comes with something new and challenging you have the option of not going any further and anxiety wins or you can decide to act and you win.
Anxiety can rob you of your strength and decisiveness. Anxiety will trap your energy, cause you to second guess or worse still, stop you moving towards what you were after in the first place.
When you make big goals and have put a plan in place, take it as part of the journey that anxiety is natural and expected. Keep your promise and make the decision necessary for that goal to happen.
You know it is not comfortable, but it will pass and the great thing is you are on the way of expanding what is comfortable for you. So, even when there is this pit of anxiety in your gut, you still need to follow through on your decisions. This is not the time to retreat.
“Decisions shape your life, not conditions” Tony Robbins.
No. 2 Have a game plan and prepare to kick between the goal posts.
You can view your goals like a game plan and like a game plan, your goals need to be clear on what they are, what they look like and what it will be like when you can say, yes I achieved that goal, the goal I set out to do.
When you play the game by your rules, you are setting yourself up to win.
The rules that you make for yourself, that you know you can achieve with effort and self control will be the game changer for goal getting.
So what rules will you set for yourself to kick the goals and win your game?
‘Great things are not done by impulse, but by a series of small things brought together”.
Vincent Van Gogh
No. 3. Create your Day
You have made the decision to make a change, you are creating a new game plan for your best life and are ready to kick some goals that will bring about something wonderful for you.
It is exciting, you are excited and your energy and enthusiasm is high. Ok, then it is getting harder to maintain and by Day 4 the momentum starts to fade, the focus now may not be so clear and the goal you were so keen on is fading.
Your daily routine is going to make all the difference now.
You strengthen your goal getting muscles through daily routine and creating the day that will be of service to you to achieve your goals. Be creative in your daily, weekly and monthly practises as these will be the steps towards making the big goals happen.
Here are 10 ideas for you to try out.
- Picture boards or pin interest help to turn your goals into something visual and detailed. You can add, explore more ideas, stretch your thinking. It is a great creative way to see your goals come alive.
- Mirror Talk – You are what you see in the mirror. Mirror talk feels strange at first but you have to start somewhere. In the morning routine remind yourself what these goals mean to you.
- The night before. This one is about being organised. You want to exercise every morning? Then set up your clothes and equipment the night before, put them where you can’t ignore them. This also helps with priorities, write your top 3 for the next day, think about them before you go to sleep and in the morning you are ready to make it happen.
- Keep statistics. Keep your incentives where you can see them. You can use a board, a flip chart, a calendar and write up your wins for the week. Looking back helps with seeing how far you have come and your future priorities.
- Write a letter to yourself and mail it. Keep the thrills coming and send yourself a letter from your future. This gives your goals some perspective on how it all turns out.
- Password affirming. We use a lot of passwords, so make them count and make them affirming. Here is one, lost2kg@week
- 1x5x5 . Take one goal and to achieve it make 5 actions and for each of the 5 actions have 5 steps. This is detailed, micro work and it gets you into action.
- Turn the negative to a positive. It just slips out of our mouth. Things like “I hate Mondays”, “This is too hard”, “I will die, if I have to do that”. They sound terrible? Right?. Watch what you say, catch what you say and turn it around to a positive statement. It all starts from the inside, your thoughts, your beliefs show up in your words and in your actions. If you believe you can’t do it, then you can’t. Some people call them a swear jar, but you could throw those negative words into a jar with a few dollars.
- One more try. What is the difference between succeeding in what you have designed in your goals and giving up? One more try. There is much to read about strengthening your persistence, commitment and determination. The authors’ wisdom can be of great encouragement, put it into action and build these attributes by giving it one more try. You missed doing something one day, get up the next day and give it one more try.
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