Promoting a Healthy Self Esteem

Imagine you are sitting on a hill, looking out over a beautiful scene

Think about the last few days

• Have you made a choice that you think could be better but you didn't because of the other person?
• Have you stood up for yourself and taken responsibility?
• Do you love, respect and trust yourself enough to have the courage to look at what you bring to this world?

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• How would your life change if you had a high powered healthy self esteem?

It takes a lot of self to recognise what you bring to this world and a lot of self to look at your shadow. 

Do you want to be someone who is upfront? 

Are you willing?

Here are some markers to help a healthy self esteem and in no particular order and it is a beginning. 

When you start, I know that you will seek out more because as you respect yourself, your self esteem will raise your standards and what you value will be clearer and defined.

1. Think of one area in your life you would be willing to change by the end of the day? That when you did, it would empower you. Hold to that. Keep it small and stick to it.  You are starting to gain momentum. 

2.  Strengthen your intuition, remember intuition is not a gift, it is a skill. A skill that you practise.  You will walk the unknown to build your self esteem. Your ability to hear your intuition is dependent on your self esteem.

3. Judging others can be a mirror of how you see yourself. Question yourself as to why I am judging that person.  Is this thinking you are carrying value to you? Keep tabs on your private agendas and be upfront. Your self esteem will bloom when there is honesty.

The greatest gift you can give yourself is a healthy self esteem.

The greatest gift you can give to the world is a healthy you.

When genuine self love and self worth are present and alive with us.
We attract love and respect from others.
Carol Tuttle

Commitment vs Apathy

Commitment is the glue that keeps it all together and on the path - a straight  and focused path to what you want to achieve.

Wish – Hope – Want – Commit – Goal – Plan – Achieve

Commitment looks like strong, open, eyes focused and your body is listening, ready and active.

You want to learn, you want to make a difference, you get excited, you have a wider view around you. You push yourself, you motivate yourself and you do this when no-one else is looking.

Do you know these people?  Do you work with these people?

What does apathy look like?

Apathy stops you before you even get started - you are on the roundabout and no intention of getting off.  Apathy will play the victim and hide their true emotions and cop out to "I don't know".

It looks like slumped shoulders, defeated, shuffle rather than stride, head down, all too much, too hard, too tired, give up, lots of sighing, look the other way.

Do you know these people? Do you work with these people?

Apathy can steal away your hopes and dreams and when you see it in the workplace, it will disrupt and frustrate. Apathy is the arch enemy of motivation, killing ideas, suffocating progress.
Yes, apathy is that rotten. You will struggle with improving staff engagement and getting your plans to happen if apathy lives there.

What to do about it.

If only I could jab you with a dose of anti-apathy or call in the anti-apathy busters to clear out the blues but,  IMHO -

1. When you see apathy, name it:  It comes from a place of hurt and lethargy, apathy is a shield to feelings and lack of direction. See it as a thief of your best.
2. Jump: Next, take a jump from the apathy cycle at WANT and make the decision to take the line to commitment.  You may think this is out there, but yes, jump, dance, move, step, stride, do any action. Match your thoughts of changing the attitude with action, even better do it to music. It's time to get silly and brave.
3. Passion squashes apathy every time. Apathy will say, I am not passionate about anything - I do what I have to do and to hell with everyone else.  Apathy tends to love the couch, so get the body heat turned up - add exercise to your day, drink lots of water. When you are at the desk, have a timer and at the minimum every half hour - get up and move. Time to start grooving.
4. Start with the small wins and celebrate what you have done and how far you have come.  
5. Pick one thing, one goal and make it happen
6. Choose one charity and give
7. Say one encouragement to another person every day
8. Wow! you have got to #8 you are showing commitment
9. Go to your employer and say " I want to understand why we are doing ...." 
10. Go to your employees and win them over. Work is creative and it is interesting and goals do work. Goals set by the employee - concentrate the mind, provide intrinsic motivation, support value & identity and fuel the passion. What better way to remove apathy!